Family Roles

Questions or comments I have heard in the last week.

• Why are families falling apart?
• Is God an important part of family structure?
• Is God actually implemented in the family structure?
• What is a successful family?
• What is a successful family made of?
• Do varying perspectives make a difference?
• How is communication effective?
• Do encouragement, appreciation and commitment matter?
• Successful Family Construction
  • Communication
  • Encouragement
  • Commitment
  • Religious Orientation
  • Social Connectedness
  • Ability to adapt
  • Expressing appreciation
  • Clear Roles
  • Time Together

 
 US Department of Health and Human Services, Identifying Successful Families – May 10, 1990
https://aspe.hhs.gov/basic-report/identifying-successful-families-overview-constructs-and-selected-measures
Proposed model of family strengths from multiple PHd’s starts with Religious orientation – Commitment – appreciation – time together – open two way communication – conflict, crisis coping or resolution.

• Communication
  • Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
• Encouragement
  • Hebrews 10:24 Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works.
• Commitment
  • Numbers 30:2  A man who makes a vow to the Lord or makes a pledge under oath must never break it. He must do exactly what he said he would do.
• Religious Orientation
  • 2 Timothy 3:16-17 All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. 17 God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work.
• Social Connectedness
  • Hebrews 10:25 And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.
• Ability to adapt
  • 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
• Expressing appreciation
  • 1 Thessalonians 5:18 Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.
  • Clear Roles
    • Colossians 3 18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly. 20 Children, always obey your parents, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not aggravate your children, or they will become discouraged.
• Time Together
  • Deuteronomy 11:18-21 “So commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these words of mine. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. 19 Teach them to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. 20 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, 21 so that as long as the sky remains above the earth, you and your children may flourish in the land the Lord swore to give your ancestors.